Dating in the Summer (forget cuffing season)

If you haven’t heard the term “cuffing season” by now, I honestly don’t know where you’ve been since like 2011. Cuffing season is that time when fall starts until the cold, wintry months end where you spend time with that one special person who you choose to keep you warm during the snowy season.

Then you two inevitably separate for one reason or another, intent on being young and wild and free all summer with whoever you want.

I think that’s pretty dumb. Sure, I understand where they’re coming from…who doesn’t want to be able to spend time with someone special drinking hot cocoa and watching movies inside of the house?

But those people are missing out on a grand opportunity by having a special person to make memories with during the summer. There’s so much to do during the summer that in my opinion a summer romance is better because you can make memories that aren’t as mundane as simply sitting in the house.

During the summer, the weather is warm so you have the opportunity to be outside during the day and even at night. You two can take a walk, get some ice cream or simply enjoy the weather. You can go to a waterpark and/or amusement park. Go to the beach, walk on the boardwalk and win each other a million stuffed bears or just one huge bear.

The possibilities are endless.

Plus, when summer is over, then you’ll have someone you actually know to cuddle with on those cold winter nights. The experience is sure to be more enjoyable once you’ve built a solid foundation with that person during the summer.

So forget using summer as an excuse to be with as many women or men as you want and really get to know that person who will be your cuddle-buddy for cuffing season.

Painting with a Twist Review

Back on Valentine’s Day my boyfriend and I wracked our brains for something new we could do other than our usual dinner and a movie. My friend suggested we go went to a painting class. Of course I thought “how much money does this girl think we have?”

That’s when she told me about Painting with a Twist. It’s a franchise that mixes “instructional art with friends, wine and a lively instructor to produce individual works of art” (of course you don’t have to drink alcohol if you don’t want to. It’s just as much fun without it, I promise. You can also bring snacks and other beverages).

I wish I had bothered to take more pictures but I’ll try to explain how this goes in detail for you.

When we went in a cheerful greeter was at the door and gave us instructions on what to do. We could put our jackets in the back on the coat hangers. Then we could pick any open seat with a canvas and paint in front of it.

We picked our seats and put the smocks on that were waiting for us on the chairs. A sense of giddiness settled over me since I had not painted anything since probably the second grade. We took the time to look around, noticing the vast amount of detailed paintings covering the walls. I wondered how in the world they were going to get us beginners to paint such beautiful paintings and became nervous because I knew that my painting skills weren’t exactly the best. Okay, I paint worse than most five year olds.

A screen that would allow everyone to see clearly was on the back wall as our cheerful instructor stood at the front of the room with her own canvas.

Fast forward and we began to paint a picture step by step. Another instructor wandered through to give us more paint and answer any questions we had.

Halfway through we took a break to play a little painting game, something I hadn’t been expecting but found pleasure and laughter in nonetheless.

By the end of it, we had painted a beautiful picture!

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I think the coloring and the shape of our clouds are a tad bit messed up because at one point we weren’t paying much attention as we spoke with the other guests (oops!) but the picture is still nice and was fun to create! I even got a bit carried away and added those hearts on my birds.

I’d definitely go back. They have workshops for couples, friends and family where you can even bring your kids! I urge everyone who wants to do something different to go to paintingwithatwist.com and check out their website to see if they have one near you!

5 Reasons to Double Date

When I watch romantic movies, oftentimes I’ll see the couples going on double or group dates with their friends. It makes it easier to see each character’s personality and can even create some hilarious moments. It seems like great fun. So I asked myself how come my boyfriend doesn’t want to go on a double date?

When I finally gathered the courage to ask my boyfriend if he would be interested in going on a date with our friends, he readily agreed, saying that he never asked because he thought that I would only want alone time with him. Or in other words, he didn’t think I would want to share his attention. On one hand, that was true. But on the other, I wanted to do something different than our usual dinner and a movie.

Long story short, we went on the double date and really enjoyed ourselves. So here’s why I think double dating is more beneficial in a relationship:

  • You See Your Partner Around Other People: It’s informative if not fun to see how your partner acts around others. Does s/he become a different person around others? As in, does your partner become rude to you, make jokes about you that you don’t like, say too many embarrassing things? Or is your partner comfortable with who they are around others, witty, able to equally distribute their attention between your company and you? You’ll find that you either enjoy or dislike how your partner acts around other people. Either way, you two can discuss it later and make your relationship even stronger because of it.
  • Just the Right Amount of Jealousy: You’re used to having your partner with both eyes on you all of the time if you never get to experience them around other people. You forget that other people can find your partner funny or charming. You realize all over again just how awesome your partner is and that s/he is yours and you want it to stay that way. You become a bit jealous and territorial when your partner is getting attention from other people. If you don’t take the jealousy too far that can be a very good thing. It’s like reigniting a flame that was barely burning with embers.
  • You Break Your Usual Date Night Cycle: As aforementioned, my boyfriend and I had buried ourselves into a circle of dinner and a movie, go home and repeat. Dating becomes boring if you do the same thing over and over. You find yourself feeling as if you’re just “movie-buddies” instead of being in an actual relationship. Going on double-dates once in a while mixes up your regular schedule. You two can even figure out what your friends do for fun and try it out yourselves and vice versa!
  • Shake off Those Nerves: In new relationships especially, when you’re still in the awkward phase of puppy-love, you can still be nervous around your partner. You still don’t quite know what to say to keep the conversation going. But if you’re out with friends, those awkward pauses in conversation can be filled. You can feel free to discuss memories about yourselves- this will help your partner to learn more about who you are. It also makes for a good laugh a lot of the time.
  • You’ll Miss Alone Time: By the end of the night you’ll probably be missing your alone time with your partner. Sure, going out with others was fun, but you remember that the only person you truly love going out on dates with is your significant other.

So if you’re afraid of going on a double date, don’t be! It’s not for everyone, but you don’t want to miss the opportunity for an adventure with such potential. I had fun and I hope you will too!